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Avoid Marrying the Wrong Person January 24, 2012

Filed under: Islam — musaafir @ 5:06 pm
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SeekersHub is having a session regarding marriage on January 28th (http://seekershub.org/XpressO/). They’ve posted a bunch of good videos and articles- but as I was reading the one below- I thought it was especially relevant and useful. I’m posting just the beginning of it in an effort to get you to read the original:

 

There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage.  The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility.  One of the biggest mistakes that many young Muslims make is rushing into marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know someone.  A common myth is that the duration of a courtship is an accurate enough measure of how compatible two people are.  The logic follows that the longer you speak with someone, the better you will know them.  The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to how that time is spent. Increasingly, young Muslim couples are engaging in “halal dating,” which is basically socializing with each other in the company of friends and/or family. This includes going out to dinner, watching a movie, playing some sport or other leisure activity, etc.  Depending on the family or culture, conversations are either minimal & chaperoned or worse, unrestricted and unsupervised. When you consider these  limitations it makes one wonder when exactly, if ever at all, would the critical conversations take place?  Unfortunately, for many, the answer is never and they live to suffer the consequences.  If you or someone you know is in the “getting to know someone” phase,  the following guide offers advice on exactly what to look for and avoid….

 

To read more: http://mentalhealth4muslims.com/2010/03/31/10-ways-to-marry-the-wrong-person/

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